Continuing the marriage wasn't an option for Ashley. She hadn't decided between her other options, but she knew she couldn't continue to live like this. Although she was pretty sure he was seeing someone else, he still scrutinized her every move, phone call, email, and mileage on the car.
One day Kevin asked her to sit down because he had something to say.
One day Kevin asked her to sit down because he had something to say.
Ashley sat down anticipating and dreading the news that was coming. She was surprised when he asked her if she was planning to leave. He had discovered some information that she was making plans to leave and wanted an explanation.
They had a long discussion. "I love you, but I can't continue to live this way. Ashley told him. "Three different times I have asked you to spend more time at home. Each time you have for about a month, then you start a new hobby that takes you away from home. The bottom line is you just don't want to be home with me. Here is what I found on your computer and phone."
Ashley cried a lot as she presented the evidence she had gathered. He sat with a stoic face and never expressed any emotion at all. He didn't offer to go to counseling or visit a pastor. He didn't admit to an affair, but still had no explanation of where he was when he wasn't at home.
After a while Kevin grew tired of listening to accusations and excuses and said, "I'm going to workout. See you later."
In a few hours Ashley grew concerned for him, so she called. "Hi, what are you doing?"
"I finished working out. Now I'm killing time before I get a haircut."
The stab in Ashley's heart was intense. Apparently he was continuing his day as if nothing had happened. Her heart was broken and her life falling apart, yet he seemed to be fine.
That night they sat down to discuss their plans. Kevin was calm and fair about the settlement. He was kind and considerate of her feelings, but still showed no remorse about her decision to leave.
"I want this over with in a hurry." He said. "I don't believe in dragging things like this out or going to counseling. If it's going to happen, make it happen soon. I'd like for you to move tomorrow." He told her with no emotion in his voice.
"Okay. I didn't realize it needed to be so quick. What if I need a few days to get my things?"
"That's fine. I don't want to be here when you move. And I want you to stay somewhere else tomorrow night."
"Okay, I can do that." He didn't know that she had already made arrangements.
By the end of the next day, she had all of her things out of the house and was settled in a friend's home. She was comfortable and exhausted at the same time. They had made their peace, but both were hurting. He was hurt that she left, although his pride wouldn't allow him to show it. She was hurt that he wouldn't fight for her.
The second day was spent handling business. She needed to change a few accounts to her name and just get set up to be an independent woman rather than part of a couple; which didn't take long because Kevin had kept all of his accounts in his name only. Their finances had never been united. Her name was on none of the bills or mortgage. By this time she was thinking more clearly. She wondered if he ever really loved her or if she would ever stop loving him.
The divorce was finalized quickly and they both began to move on with their lives. Neither knowing how to live without the other, but also that it was necessary. Thus the perfect marriage ended because of selfishness and pride.
They had a long discussion. "I love you, but I can't continue to live this way. Ashley told him. "Three different times I have asked you to spend more time at home. Each time you have for about a month, then you start a new hobby that takes you away from home. The bottom line is you just don't want to be home with me. Here is what I found on your computer and phone."
Ashley cried a lot as she presented the evidence she had gathered. He sat with a stoic face and never expressed any emotion at all. He didn't offer to go to counseling or visit a pastor. He didn't admit to an affair, but still had no explanation of where he was when he wasn't at home.
After a while Kevin grew tired of listening to accusations and excuses and said, "I'm going to workout. See you later."
In a few hours Ashley grew concerned for him, so she called. "Hi, what are you doing?"
"I finished working out. Now I'm killing time before I get a haircut."
The stab in Ashley's heart was intense. Apparently he was continuing his day as if nothing had happened. Her heart was broken and her life falling apart, yet he seemed to be fine.
That night they sat down to discuss their plans. Kevin was calm and fair about the settlement. He was kind and considerate of her feelings, but still showed no remorse about her decision to leave.
"I want this over with in a hurry." He said. "I don't believe in dragging things like this out or going to counseling. If it's going to happen, make it happen soon. I'd like for you to move tomorrow." He told her with no emotion in his voice.
"Okay. I didn't realize it needed to be so quick. What if I need a few days to get my things?"
"That's fine. I don't want to be here when you move. And I want you to stay somewhere else tomorrow night."
"Okay, I can do that." He didn't know that she had already made arrangements.
By the end of the next day, she had all of her things out of the house and was settled in a friend's home. She was comfortable and exhausted at the same time. They had made their peace, but both were hurting. He was hurt that she left, although his pride wouldn't allow him to show it. She was hurt that he wouldn't fight for her.
The second day was spent handling business. She needed to change a few accounts to her name and just get set up to be an independent woman rather than part of a couple; which didn't take long because Kevin had kept all of his accounts in his name only. Their finances had never been united. Her name was on none of the bills or mortgage. By this time she was thinking more clearly. She wondered if he ever really loved her or if she would ever stop loving him.
The divorce was finalized quickly and they both began to move on with their lives. Neither knowing how to live without the other, but also that it was necessary. Thus the perfect marriage ended because of selfishness and pride.
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