This behavior upset me so badly it has taken me a few days to calm down enough to write about it. I saw the report on Dr. Phil.
Today much ado has been made of Coach Matt Labrum who suspended his entire football team for inappropriate behavior. He said they needed to learn to be men. They were required to do community service, improve their grades and class attendance before they EARNED their way back on the team. I also applaud Coach Labrum. I am glad to know there are coaches in this world who can see past the scoreboard. Believe it or not, football will come to a close for 99% of the players when they graduate from school--either high school or college. Few go on to play professionally. However, 100% of the players will go on to be men.
I remember when football players were held to a higher standard. I remember when football players were the leaders in the school. On game day, they all wore dress shirts and ties. They looked amazing. They walked down the hall a little taller than on other days. They were more polite and respectful--not that they were impolite or disrespectful on other days. They were just exceedingly courteous on game days. Their attitude and mannerisms matched their clothing. They knew--and so did everyone else--that today was a special day. It was game day and they were privileged to be part of the game.
I remember when coaches held themselves to a higher standard. They were as fit and healthy as they expected the players to be. They could physically demonstrate a play to the team. I remember when you could recognize a coach by the way he walked or stood.
I'm for bringing back those days of holding players and coaches to a higher standard. I'm for teaching our students more than how to play a game. I'm for teaching them character, responsibility, honesty, and accountability. I say "Yea, Coach Labrum." Let's see how many other coaches have the guts to do what this coach did. BUT there is an important factor in this story. THE PARENTS SUPPORTED HIM IN HIS DECISION. Oh yeah, I remember those days too.
Okay, so your dream didn't end exactly like you thought it would. Your baby is cute, precious, and has significant disabilities.
Some parents change their parenting philosophy for a child with disabilities. There is no reason to discipline the child. Everyone can just make exceptions for him. There is no reason to work with him academically. He's never going to be able to hold a job anyway. There's no reason to teach him life skills. He's going to live with you forever and you can continue to do things like dress him. WRONG!
To allow a child with a disability to have his own way, set no goals, and stay dependent on others is the greatest injustice that can be done to that child. A person with a disability may not be able to progress at the same pace as a non-disabled person, but he can still make achievements and accomplishments to celebrate. Denying him the chance to celebrate victories in his life is cruel.
As a parent and teacher of children with handicapping conditions, here is what I think is in the best interest of the child.
I am a retired educator who began writing right before retiring. I currently have six books published. Thanks for dropping by. Please come back often.
|Theresa Franklin, Stories for Christ||
Down Life's Road
Whether you're looking at where you're going or where you've been, life's road seems easier when we go together. This blog will discuss everyday life as I view it. We will discuss people, places, events, attitudes, and convictions.