Basically the guys decided to have a party and invited one girl. Now she claims they told her others were coming. The boys say that's untrue. The boys had been drinking when she arrived. She says she began drinking to be in the same mood as they were. The boys claim the sex was consensual. The girl says that's untrue.
After talking to these students and their parents, Dr. Phil welcomed another mother to the stage. Her 15 year old daughter had gone through exactly the same thing. When pictures started being passed around the school, the family moved. The pictures followed to her new school. They moved again. Same thing happened. Finally when the girl could no longer stand the ridicule, she took her own life.
Dr. Phil welcomed a third mother to the stage and she reported the same events with her daughter who was 17 years old. This is the part that is so upsetting. No matter what happened--consensual or not-- these two beautiful young ladies were harassed, embarrassed, ridiculed, taunted, and scorned so much that they decided to end their lives. They had lived less than one-fourth of their life expectancy when they decided life wasn't worth living. Not because of the alleged rape, but because other people used the information for entertainment.
Let's say, for the sake of argument, that they weren't raped. They knew from the beginning, as the boys claim, what would take place that night. Is it worth two young, promising lives? Did they deserve to be hounded so much they chose death over going to classes one more day? Isn't that what they did in Salaam in 1600? Eventually the people of Salaam decided to put the 'witches' out of their misery. Today we wouldn't do anything so barbaric. No we just kill them slowly with barbs, jokes, pictures, name calling, and criticism. Why, we're in no way like the people of Salaam. REALLY??
Yes, the teens made some mistakes. In each situation, alcohol was the key factor. We have known for years that teens need to be taught not to drink. Parents are responsible for teaching that. I believe most parents do teach their teen--verbally. Do they behaviorally? Do you laugh when you see your teen sneak a sip of your drink? Do you ignore signs that he or she has been in your alcohol cabinet? Behavior like this completely undoes what you say. The girls were just as guilty of drinking as the boys. They also shouldn't have been alone at a party with more than one boy. When the girl was told others were coming, she should have excused herself until the others arrived.
No one at these parties was innocent. However, and this is a big however, no one deserves to be taunted to death. There is no behavior that deserves a slow, painful death of character, followed by action that ends a young life.