So you begin studying how to be a good parent. You discover that the role of a parent is to prepare their child for the next developmental level of life. Okay, great. Now how do I do that??? Right before the baby is born, you get it. Oh yeah, now I see it. If the baby is able to roll over, you help him develop the skills he needs to sit up. If he can sit up, you help him stand. So on and so forth until you are helping him graduate from college and transition to a fully independent life.
Now the baby is coming. Something's wrong. The doctor seems to be in a panic. The nurses are moving around the delivery room like scattered ants. The anesthesiologist is turning dials on a huge machine as if he were trying to stop the room from exploding. No one is talking to you. In your heart of hearts you something is wrong with your baby.
Finally things settle down and you are wheeled to your room--Still no word. You and your spouse sit there for what seems to be an eternity and eventually a pediatrician you've never met walks through your hospital door.
"Hi, I'm Dr. Hambrick and I was called by your OB/GYN to evaluate your baby." Your stomach knots up. Your palms get sweaty. The tears start to flow and your mind starts racing.
Then this doctor you didn't ask for tells you that his tests have revealed that your beautiful child has a disability and will need care for the rest of his life. Then and only then can you know what it means to have your world turned upside down. Now what do you do? What is your role as a parent now?
The same as before. Prepare your child for the next developmental level of his life. "I thought you said he'd need care for the rest of his life." I did, but that doesn't mean he will not have developmental levels.
In the educational field we say things like 'All Children Can Learn' and 'Take them from where they are to where they can be'. No matter what level of understanding the child has, he or she can always learn more. There is no such thing as 'finished learning or developing.' Every person can learn every day and it is the parent's job to prepare the child for learning.
This is part I of this subject. There will be more information on this subject in a few days.
You've waited for it. You've dreamed about it. You've prayed for it and FINALLY the time has come. You are going to have a baby.
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